Updated: Oct 12, 2018
Is it really that big of a deal?
"It's all about quality of life and finding a happy balance between work and friends and family." - Philip Green
Who are you Philip? Your words and so many others have perpetuated an idea that seems nearly impossible to achieve.
Raise your hand if you are sick of reading about how to achieve the perfect work/life balance?
When I first started my business and was working 50+ hours a week to build something substantial enough to quit my full time job I was obsessed with the idea. I worked hard, day and night, and could quickly see my life slipping through the cracks.
...less time with the kid
...my hair, overall appearance was a mess
...friends would comment "you work a lot." (insert eye roll)
...child would say I was always working.
You get the point.
I had the world tugging on me from every direction and I was dead-set on making everyone happy because "balance is so important."
To me...trying to achieve balance equates to trying to achieve perfection. Which is unachievable.
I don't like the word.
The definition of balance is: an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady. And a popular synonym is...STABILITY.
Stability I believe in. Am I stable? YES.
Another word I like even more is boundaries.
Think about what is causing a lack of stability in your life between self-care, work, family, friends.
Most likely the answer is devoting too much time to work. If you place boundaries in your business, routine and learn to say no more often I guarantee you will feel more stable and your personal life will fall into place.
What has worked for me is to let go of the idea of balance. I have accepted that I may not ever find balance according to all the blog post I read online and I am okay.
Once I accepted that I learned to love my mess. My mess takes me to really cool places and empowers me. I fail often but I pick myself back up and my kiddo is right there with me.
We are okay. And I am probably doing better than I think.
What are some ways you set boundaries in business so that work doesn't take control of your life?
How do you feel about work/life balance? Do you feel you have found that sweet spot? If so, let me know how in the comments.
I look forward to reading your comments!